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who do you think is more into Femdom (bdsm) - men or women? well I kinda checked the statistics and found out that there are definitely more women that are into BDSM activities rather than men but I don't trust too much the source so I'm not sure about those statistics by the way - what do you think about the leather movement in general?

I found my husband talking about BDSM on line with women behind my back. I would like to know how other? people would react to that. Now he thinks it is normal and he has the right and when he tried it on me and I said it's not normal and I don't like it he was more mad at me saying it's just role playing like what actors do. What do you think about this. Please help.

can a women who has been in the bdsm lifestyle for the last 10 years,just up and quit? i recently found out my girlfriend of 8 yrs.has been into the bdsm lifestyle,shes had her share of masters,doms etc.she has even been to all the sf clubs.i have found out that she is a submissive,i even saw her profile on collarme.com i busted her,i now know where all those bruises came from.she now tells me that she no longer does that anymore.can you just quit something like that.

How can I reconcile being in love with two women? I have been married to a woman for 7 years, and we have a 3 year old child together. About 2 years ago I discovered that I am a Dominant and have pursued a few bdsm relationships. I have recently fallen in love with one woman who has taken My collar. The problem now is although I love My wife, as she is an excellent mother to My son and very good at organizing the household, I am constantly thinking of My slave as she is so obedient, devoted and beautiful. How can I reconcile a vanilla wife and a bdsm slave? Any opinions?

Why are sbmissive women afraid to talk abot BDSM? I get put down by many people about this subject. But the truth is that many people are into this lifestyle.....they are either afraid or embarassed to "come ot of the closet".

A question for woman How would you feel if you found your husband was into BDSM and talked to women on line? What would you do? how would you react? Would you let him do it to you? Thank you for your help

Any women (or girls) who are fans of the Artwork of Gary Roberts ? Its bdsm/S&M oriented...so DO NOT look it up if that sort of thing offends you...

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What is your opinion and/or knowledge of BDSM? BDSM is a lifestyle choice and many of the sub men that I come into contact with feel the need to hide the fact that they are submissive to women and like to be Dominated. Many are married or in relationships and cannot tell their partner for one reason or another. I feel society has a very stereotypical view of this lifestyle and want to know how people who are not into the lifestyle, perceive it. Or why, in general, men feel the need to keep this side of them, hidden. I see that the majority of women who have answered the question have been derogatory about it. The men somewhat different...I think that answers My question about men having to keep it private in their lives. In answer to a certain ladies comment...I do not appreciate being called "not normal" either. As I said, it is a lifestyle choice and people shouldn't be so biggoted and ignorant. You obviously know nothing if that is what BDSM means to you. I agree with the comment made about men coming to see Me who are successful and powerful...they love to submit in contrast, it does indeed balance things out in their lives.

My husband was caught talking online about sex , BDSM , submission and doninance to women? is that cheating? I can't help but feel horrible about all of it. Please help

Question for dominant females in BDSM? ok. i got a guy who wants me to dominate him and i see nothing wrong with this hes been my friend for two years and im not sexually attracted to him at all but hes sexually attracted to me. I want to but i see a lot of red flags in him and it might not be safe to go threw with it. sometimes i think hes not even as submissive as he says he is. for one hes pushy but he calls it being curious. (I know pushy when i see it.) 2. he doesn't listen. do you have to train him to listen or am i wasting my time? He gets turned on by pain. This is my first Submissive man i ran into that came out that he was submissive. but in reality i just don't trust this because theres just something about him that just doesn't say its right to do. like hes too interrested in sex for one or maybe thats a good thing i dont know. I need some serious help with this. 1. its this normal? 2. if i claimed him what should i do? or should i even go threw with this at all? 3. what are the traits of a submissive male? I really need some experianced dominant women here to help. i do alot of research on BDSM so as of now i dont have any experence. I just dont want my first thim to go wrong and be with someone thats just out to "get some" and not to worship me. in other words pretending to be something hes not. Thanx xian. what you said is very helpful. I'll let you know if i need anymore help. :)

Is BDSM allowed in Islam? I'm a muslim women and I have been married for 4 tears. Me and my husband want to spice up our sex life in a "non-haraam" way. We've been doing research and BDSM seems very "kinky". Is it allowed?

Race & the issue of BDSM? This question was just in my head. If you're African-American and know about our history with slavery and our bondage as a people, what do you think: is it ok (being a black woman) for you to participate in BDSM with a partner of another race and now about the struggles we suffered during slavery. What if you want to participate in BDSM with a person of another race? Is it wrong, right? Details & reasons why/why not please. Thanks. I am specifically talking about when the black woman is the submissive & the white man is the dominant. @ Luvbee: Here is some more info on BDSM: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/BDSM

if a women wears all black does it indicate she might be into bdsm?

Bisexual BDSM Practicioners? I'm curious- does your role in BDSM play change with the gender of your partners, or does it stay fixed? I personally would rather top women and bottom for men and women . . . I'd rather not top men, for some reason. How about you?

Disciplinary wife/women? Where can I find women who can discipline me, not so much of bdsm but into spanking and dominant towards me? Email me or give me links or ideas I have a job and not a slacker, neat , clean and tidy too

What does the bible say about bdsm? We all know the bible say horrible damning things about homosexuals but what does the bible say about heterosexuals doing bdsm to each other? The relationship is between a man and a woman both of which are consenting adults. The woman is the submissive and the man is the dom, and they only sleep and play with each other. I read bible and I could not find anything in there about how this would be wrong. Unless it was between 2 men or 2 women. Please help me shed some light on this.

Is it difficult or pleasure for a Master in a BDSM relationship? Say for example: A man and women love each other very much, get married then 4 years later decide to become a Master/slave BDSM relationship. I know it’s pretty much protocol for the Master to give the slave to other people to play with. Is that difficult for the Master, does he receive pleasure from it, is it just another way to make sure the slave knows where they stand? Combination or mixture of all? I am curious as to how the Master really feels about this. Sorry... it can be two women or men as well. Any Master/slave relationship. I know some couples dont do this but most everything I read says it is very common. I don't want to do this.. I am just curious as to why they do it and what they gain from it. It would really hurt me to see someone I love with another person.

name for this Kink ?women getiing emotional not hurting the guy? name for this Kink ?women getiing emotional not hurting the guy but pounding her fist on the guys chest(not hard) then her breaking down crying and him comforting her ? This a repetive theme of movies made in the 1940's and 1950's Im not into to Dom or Sub or bdsm but something about those types of scenes from the 40's or 50's Whoa !!!!! It doesnt seem like angry sex but im no expert It seems like its the comforting of the lady crying that "gets me off"

How can I tactfully find out if someone I meet in the Society for Creative Anachronism is interested in BDSM? Years ago, I was a member of the Society for Creative Anachronism. I have some great memories from SCA, and I would like to get involved again soon. Since I left, I've read that a lot of members are also kink enthusiasts. I dated some great women while I was in SCA, and I think it would be great fun to find someone who shared both of these interests. I hate to join a BDSM group just to "cruise". I've read that unescorted men are a surplus and not really encouraged at BDSM events anyway. SCA is the only alternative community I was ever involved with, so it might be the best place for me to find a kink/nerd-culture relationship, because I'd do it for fun regardless. Any advice would be appreciated from either Scadians or kinksters. Thanks! For those hip to BDSM but not SCA, here's a link: http://www.sca.org/sca-intro.html (30,000 members around the world!)

Why do women wear gas masks? Is it to make them look sexy... I mean I heard its a BDSM eroitca. But i saw a 16/17 year old girl walking around town with one on with her friend... what was she doing with it?

bdsm! good/evil? is bdsm good or bad thing? i myself think its! good thing!a way for people who are not evil they just "think differently" it is also very misunderstood the way its always potrayed as upper class assholes being whipped by there maids or some other shit! are there any women/men out there who would love to be totally dominated or be totally submissive to their partner+ would love to role play but think partner would think of them as sick or perverted! your not in my mind! + i am sure there are a lot of would be,s or certainly would try if people were less worried about what others say/think,so what you think?

Why am I turned on by women dominating me? I realize that many people are into BDSM, but could someone try to explain the PSYCHOLOGY of it? Why do I like to be humiliated, ordered around, and completely vulnerable and controlled?

How do I stop fantasizing about feminization? Alot of my fantasies have been about me being feminized by a woman. Feminization is a BDSM activity where a mistress or dominant woman changes the gender of a submissive man. Cross-dressing and other activities are invovled designed to make the man "feminine". Recently, I have visited this website about feminization and I have come to conclusion based on what i read and saw in that website that feminization is homosexual. I am a heterosexual man. Therefore, I should not fantasize like this. So how do I move away from this crap. Ok, no one answered my question, and I'm worried about myself

Do you girls/women like a man to be dominant against you? I am not talking about being some kind of control-freak, or bdsm and that kind of stuff. What I mean is if you like when a man takes control and in the same time are caring and soft against you, that he sometimes is telling you what to do, without neglecting his own responsibilities.

BDSM and sprituality? A number of my subbie women have noted that they've found my floggings to be almost spiritual in it's effects. A couple claim that I flog them so well, that it's a Religious experience. What are your opinions upon this notion? Is flogging in a BDSM scene comparable to your notions of Religion and Spirituality?

Why do non-white women seem to avoid kink? I've noticed black, asian, and hispanic women avoid stuff like bdsm that white women adore. Even in porn the only non-white women who do kink are half-white. Is there something non-white women dislike about this area of sex that white women desire? The semn thing is not bad. I've eaten my own semen and it's not nasty at all. It's actually chilling.

In the BDSM D/s, M/s realm, if a woman identifies herself as a slave, why do ....? people connotate that with being sexually promiscuious? Or that they'll give "it" away to just anybody, i.e. slut or the like?

am obsessed wiith having a female dominatrix and getting started in BDSM? Although I have been married many years, I have always been fascinated with the world of domination and BDSM. Got started with an interest in lingerie as a teenager. Although I live in a small town, I have not lost my interest in being controlled especially by a woman who would tell me what to do to please Her and just need a way to get started in it. My brief adventures into BDSM have not been real successful either. However, it is tough being married and keeping a degree of secrecy involved too. Would appreciate ideas or addresses from a female of any age who would be interested in taking me under Her wing. Need a degree of humiliation as i am a sweetheart of a man who is eager to please only You. Money is no object just need to be owned by a Lady.

psychologically, is the submission of a Christian wife to her husband same as BDSM? in the world of BDSM, the submissive partner (usually female) gains pleasure from 'submitting' to the 'master', the master makes all the decision, just wondering is this the same reason why Christian woman enjoy submission to their husband (maybe sub consciously)? i don't mean to be rude just an interesting observation..

what is bdsm? 1. what does bdsm stand fore exactly. 2. do most women like it or not. 3. what is it they like about it. just toying with the idea.

I would like to know if there are women in California who are into bondage and discipline.? I would like to know if there are women in California who are into bondage and discipline.? really looking to get into the bdsm lifestyle bondage discipline especialy dressing up like superheros

JEWS - is there any Jewish laws which anyhow forbid femdom or bdsm even ones done in the context of marriage? i'm pretty sure that fetishes shall be avoided because most of them carry with them self a big amount of astral impurity and may act negatively on the health of the soul of a person but would femdom or any other form of BDSM ones done properly in the context of marriage between a man and a woman in a way that it just reflects the personal preferences of the couple be forbidden?

Mixed wrestling women smashing there pubic bones on guys? Mixed wrestling women smashing there pubic bones on guys they are on top of usaly there right above a guys crotch -are they getting off that way ? Could a women get off that way ? PS usaly these appear to be "fantasy" matches you see post on youtube where the woman gets on top . I must admit its fun to watch .Im know im not into bdsm or anthylike that but hey even if did lose to a woman i have a feeling in some ways i think we would both win .

Can woman be turned on by my fetishes? I generally like to be loving, sensual and passionate, and aim to give the most satisfaction to my partner - even realise some of her bedroom fantasies. But I have some obscure fetishes with bisexual tendencies which include another partner (guy/girl), cross-dressing, anal stimulation (mine or hers), being dominated by her (BDSM), peed on ... Would women generally be able to even tolerate them, could some be attracted by them, Should I ever tell my partner about them or always keep them to myself and which ones.

About BDSM online? My husband has joined many groups online about BDSM. He chats with other women, has many pictures on BDSM. He goes by another name. I found this out because he left his computer unlocked. Now what are your feelings about this. Now I am not interested in BDSM and never will be. Now is there anyone who has gone through this too. I find this very disturbing

where can I go to find strong women? Generally, men are supposed to be the leaders and breadwinners in a relationship. Because of circumstances growing up, I am pretty much the exact opposite of what a man is expected and supposed to be. That means, for all practical purposes, that I need a woman who is pretty much the exact opposite of what women are expected and supposed to be, in order to complete me. But with the exception of alternative lifestyles such as BDSM--which isn't what I'm looking for--there are no clear leads for me to such a mate and match for me. What do I do?

Any of you women ready and gutsy enough to accept a bondage dare? Tell me how much knowledge and experience you have about BDSM. Also include your age. I will send you your dare including exactly what to wear and what to do via email. Some assignments can be done at home, others are done in public. Which ones are you brave enough to do? You wil need a close friend to help with some of the assignments. Do you live alone or have room mates? Do yo have privacy? After you carry out the assignment, write to me about your thoughts and feelings as you carried it out a TKu2thedj@/a/o/l./c/o/m. Remove the slashes.